Raphael Aron, the director of an organization
called Cult Counseling Australia, has written a useful survey intended for the
general reader. Cults includes a thoughtful discussion of what a cult is,
descriptions of various kinds of cults, an explanation of mind control, detailed
and illuminating sections on exit counseling, and basic information about
recovery.
Cults draws heavily on its author’s 25
years of experience as a counselor of families and individuals with cult-related
problems. Mr. Aron makes abundant and effective use of anecdotes and case
studies to illustrate his points. In his exposition of Lifton’s famous eight
characteristics of cults, for instance, Mr. Aron first describes each
characteristic in simple English. Then, for each, he appends a case example of
that characteristic in a particular group. His description of types of cultic
groups is also rich with specific examples ranging from “management training
schemes” to Eastern meditation to Bible groups to a one-on-one case involving a
“clairvoyant.” This skillful use of stories helps the reader to understand
complex concepts and remember important information.
Mr. Aron brings to bear the differing
perspectives of families, current members, and ex-members. He details
experiences with children, adults, mentally healthy people and mentally ill
people. On such controversial subjects as Satanism and recovered memory, the
author presents both sides of the issue without drawing a conclusion.
The sections on mind control and exit counseling
are, with one major reservation, the highlight of this book. First, the
reservation: The author is too optimistic when he asserts, “[R]egardless of the
outcome, the exit counseling process is bound to create long-term positive
change within the dynamics of the family.” This may be, as he states, his own
experience and that of others, but it is not consistent with my experience.
Families in great distress too often consult me after a failed exit counseling.
And I know of families where failed exit counselings have resulted in severe
strains on marriages or other close relationships. True, these tend to be
families that have not engaged in the preparatory counseling the author
describes, but it is important for him to note that distinction.
The author also states that, “Even if the
intervention does not go ahead, the process by which it has been discussed and
resolved can be worthwhile.” Again, my experience is that too often nothing gets
resolved when a family decides against intervention. Those who wanted
intervention and those who did not simply add this to the history of conflict,
to resurface in future conflicts along with other grievances.
In making these claims of efficacy, I think that
Mr. Aron is talking about a select group of families with the emotional,
intellectual, and financial resources to engage in a difficult process, one that
requires them to make changes in themselves as well as helping others to change.
These families do exist, of course, and working with them is thoroughly
rewarding. Yet there are many other families for whom it is a triumph and a
major change merely to realize that scolding and reproving the cult member is
counter-productive. Assertions about the value of exit counseling should apply
to everyone in need of help, not just a particularly qualified group.
That said, the sections on exit counseling will
be helpful in other ways to all who want to know more about the subject. Mr.
Aron devotes almost 100 pages of the 238-page book to a detailed discussion of
exit counseling. Topics include a discussion of mind control, preparation for
exit counseling, what happens during an exit counseling, why exit counselings
may fail, when exit counseling is appropriate, and when it is not. There are
both success stories and the opposite, including examples of breaches of
confidentiality and carelessness. Mr. Aron advocates keeping the intervention
planning within a very small group, if possible. He underlines his point with
some telling anecdotes of interventions defeated through indiscretions of one
kind and another. He also illustrates the importance of creative planning
through a moving story of a successful exit counseling in which no family member
was present—the key figure was a
friend of the cult member. Anyone who reads these sections will emerge with a
better understanding of the process and the elements needed for success.
The author concludes with a call for government
help, advocating among other measures “a system of checks and balances whereby
these groups are required to conform to a code of ethics under a regulatory
board which can oversee their operation.” How such a system is to be contrived,
let alone implemented, he does not venture to suggest. Other suggestions, such
as more attention to expert testimony on issues like mind control and the
deliberate alienation of a child from one parent by another on ideological
grounds, seem more doable.
The Australian orientation of Cults does
not detract from, but rather enhances, its usefulness by highlighting the
commonalities of the cult phenomenon across international borders and diverse
cultures. Although this might not be the first book one would recommend to the
beginner, Mr. Aron’s work is certainly helpful supplementary reading for those
who want to improve their understanding of the subject.